Anxiety ?

Dealing with anxiety and stress is different for everyone. Each person dealing with one or the other or even depression has a different way of handling it. That being said, it has a different effect on people. Some effects might be harsh, mind boggling episodes and some could be simple “urges to scream.” Sometimes it can effect you by giving you an “attack” (panic attack, anxiety attack), making you itch and squirmy, making you feel completely shut down inside and out, or it can affect the way you project your anger. There’s a million and one ways anxiety, stress and/or depression can hurt you and your body but there’s also a million and one ways to help yourself, and your mind calm down. I have experienced horrible anxiety attack and I’ve also felt super small panic attack’s. Like I said, everyone is different and feels anxiety in different ways.

What is anxiety exactly ? It’s when someone has a feeling of worry, fear, unwillingness, or being uneasy. However, that doesn’t describe half of the experience inside when having anxiety. So, how does anxiety feel ? It feels like a burden, like an unwelcomed feeling and / or thought. Personally, while having a panic attack, I feel like I’m trying to rip out of my own skin like I want to cry and be held but also scream and hit something at the same time. Its so hard to deal with something like this when you can’t even describe it in a way that makes any sense. It feels like my throat gets tighter and my body shakes and sort of like I’m gasping for air but not getting any at all. What causes anxiety ? Well, many things can cause it. Like I said, everyone experiences it in different ways so “determining who’s anxiety is worse” or “who has it harder” is kind of irrelevant. In my opinion everyone has their own reasons and causes for anxiety but only that person knows what it feels like to be in their shoes. My biggest fear is acceptance and I honestly think that it’s a big issue for many people, men and women. In this day and age acceptance is the only thing standing between you and something or someone else, Between you and a relationship, between you and a job. It’s so hard for me, personally, to sometimes accept the fact that in some places or to some people you are not accepted; and the weirdest part, its the people I’m around everyday. People I see at work, or sometimes friends and family, it’s not even the people on social media or strangers. I mean yes, judgement is the first thing that crosses someone’s mind weather it’s good or bad. But why not strangers ? I think it’s because day to day people who I come in contact with often see me at my worst, or my most awkward moments, or when I stutter, etc. Strangers don’t know anything about me so I think it’s easier to be rejected by someone who knows nothing about me rather than someone that does. 

So, things I do to help stay away from anxiety ? Number one, WHO CARES. I probably tell myself this at least once a day, everyone in this world makes mistakes and does something stupid sometimes, regardless of the situation we’re all human. You sometimes have to brush the anxiety off your shoulders and tell yourself ‘who cares’ even though it’s hard sometimes, having your own back is the best option. Self confidence is amazing. Number two, BREATHE. In some of the toughest situations, if you just stand for a second, close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths, it helps. My little routine when having an anxiety attack is to inhale while counting to five slowly, hold your breath for five seconds, then exhale while counting to five, so simple and it honestly helps a ton. Number three, SCREAM. Let it out girlfriend, scream in your car, or room or in the street in the rain! Every time I get stressed or fed up with something I literally yell and it makes me laugh for some reason and then I’m okay. And lastly, number four, PRAY. Even though praying is sometimes hard, (it is for me too) you have to let it out to someone so when you’re alone and don’t understand why your day was so bad or even if it was an amazing day, tell god about it because I guarantee afterwards you’re going to feel a weight lifted off your shoulders. Praying always works for me but if praying isn’t your thing, write in a journal. It’s always good to get whatever bad thing is bothering you, off your chest. 

It’s okay to feel anxiety or to not know how to handle it. It’s okay to cry and yell, it’s okay to feel helpless and weak. However, you were made to live the life that was given to you so don’t let anxiety stand in your way. Brush off that anxiety and pray girlfriend. Hopefully I’ve given some advice to help your situation but honestly, fall on god. He’s a great listener. Happy Blogging. xoxo.